Marriage and Relationships

Relationships can be potentially blissful or potentially disastrous or somewhere in-between. When things go completely off the rails and may appear impulsive; there is usually a build up over time that may not have been identified earlier in its true detrimental perspective.

Happiness stems from healthy, joyous interactions on a regular basis and because we are all so different the foundations of any union is paramount to longevity and at the same time we expect there will be moments of unhappiness and resentment. Being able to overcome these periods without throwing the baby out with the bath water, will depend largely on how well the foundations in the relationship have been structured from the outset.

I meet many couples whose relationships have been in disrepair due to many different factors for such a long time that they just become fed up and give up. Fortunately those who seek counselling have a much higher probability of re unifying the way they relate in order to accommodate the longer term.

Often this means getting to know each other from a different perspective, looking at ones pre relationship conditioning, learning new skills, discovering new aspects of each other or even learning how to fight fair without disempowering or intimidating the other. There are so many more constructive ways to improve the quality of the time you spend together; but like a neglected garden over run with weeds and a lack of life, it takes some work to return it back to an energetic and happy place.

Relationship difficulties

As a therapist I find relationship issues that continue to manifest become much more difficult to manage, the primary issues develop distortions and often progress out of perspective; consequently relevant topics are more difficult to identify and resolve; some of these issues may relate to:

• Intimacy
• Distrust
• Poor communication
• Addictions
• Abuse
• Ethical/moral framework

• Infidelity
• Finances
• Cultural issues
• Sex
• Excessive quarrelling

These areas of difficulty can be resolved with the guidance of relationship counselling. Problems are best attended to when coping mechanisms fail and progress in your relationship becomes stuck; individuals can move forward and experience a sense of freedom as well as relief when the burden of disharmony has been lifted.